From a daughters point of view

I spent the better part of the day on Father’s Day cooking a great meal for my man, the father of my children. He isn’t home much this summer, working out of town, asked if I wanted to go out, we don’t get to be home with him much this summer and he doesn’t get a home cooked meal at his own table so that is what we did. I also spent the rest of the day reading ‘A better Man’ by Rick Steber. It features a story of my dad. I read the rough draft a few months ago and now sat to read the real thing yesterday.

The book is raw truth. I have watched my dad go thru the process of having this book wrote for a few years now of being interviewed and I do believe the Lord used it as a healing tool in my dad’s life. Not only was dad coming to grips with the life that he has led but also forgiving himself because he knows that Jesus already has.

I remember when he told me that this process was beginning I asked dad what the goal was, what was his plan to accomplish by putting himself out there for all to read? His answer was to give God glory for all that He has done for him and to hopefully give hope to someone else who has been thru some of the garbage he has been thru. I asked him if Rick was the man God appointed to write the book and dad said,”I do believe so.  Rick may not know it yet but the Lord is in control on this one.” I would say that Rick allowed the Lord to take control and he listened to Him.

a better man

To write this book it took a man who was willing to humble himself and I look at dad today and would say he is a humble man. This is what the bible says about this subject and it is just so fitting.

1 Peter 5:6-11New Living Translation (NLT)

So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and at the right time he will lift you up in honor. Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.

Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. Stand firm against him, and be strong in your faith. Remember that your family of believers[a] all over the world is going through the same kind of suffering you are.

10 In his kindness God called you to share in his eternal glory by means of Christ Jesus. So after you have suffered a little while, he will restore, support, and strengthen you, and he will place you on a firm foundation. 11 All power to him forever! Amen.


Every single word of this is dad today. It just sums it right up.

The book portrays dad in a certain light that may not even look fitting to even be a father. As I have reflected back I really have never not respected or not felt love for  my dad. Dad is a natural communicator and even though he was gone much of the time I don’t think I ever felt like I was deprived of a fatherly influence upon my life. He has always been there. He managed, thru all of it, to stay in relationship, to give advice and talk me thru some things I have needed him for. A closeness with dad has been there.

Dad prays, I remember going to church with him when I was young, 12 years old, going to Sunday night service and he always had his hands raised and fully worshiping his Savior. Dad has always been able to drop a tear quite easily and now, his softened heart he’s a bag of mush much of the time.

No, I did not like his drinking, as a matter of fact, I loathed it, I think all of us girls did. Reading the book, it was a much bigger problem for him than it ever was for me. And my mom, I have grown a new respect and understanding of her life too. Where she may have looked weak to the outside world, she was a woman of strength and courage.

a better man and mom

I think the biggest thing about reading this book for me is that, I as a wife and mother now, realize our children see things in the light of ‘how am I doing’ and never take into consideration that the parents as in DAVE FRANKE and PEGGY FRANKE have their own stories to tell. They have led a life, had feeling, that I really was oblivious to, my needs were met and that is all I really was interested in when growing up in the Franke home. This, I will keep in mind while raising my own. The biggest thing is to raise them up knowing Jesus so that when they grow up and have their own lives to lead that they know that Jesus is the answer for all and everything.

The Lord, he protects, gives grace because after being raised in a home such as the one us girls were raised in we all love Jesus more than anything else. We live to serve Him. He is our all and all, our beginning and our end. I would say that not only is dad a sober man today he also is a man who raised four girls who love the Lord and that is an accomplishment to praise the Lord for as well.


Now, mom and dad are moving to new territory. Willing to let the Lord lead the way, on an adventure that He is making the calls on and it is quite exhilarating to be apart of and see how and where the Lord uses them for His glory.

The story continues……………..

to order the book and soon to be on Amazon.


June 22, 2015 - 7:38 am

Brandee Shafer - I want to read this! How do I order a copy?

June 22, 2015 - 7:59 am

marlece - Brandee, it will be on Amazon this week but if you go to this link you may order from there as well.

June 22, 2015 - 2:27 pm

Sherrie - Marlece, I haven’t started it yet but even before I get there I knew your mom is a woman of strength. Your dad has the gift of story telling and although someone else wrote the book he has the ability of painting pictures with words. I can’t wait to read it and know it will be tough in parts but victorious in others.

June 25, 2015 - 2:54 pm

Alecia Simersky - How awesome that your dad has written a book. I think we all forget our parents have a story of their own. We only see things from our limited perspective. I think it says a lot of your dad that though he struggled he still raised 4 godly women. That is a true testament of faith and the goodness of God.
I love redemption stories!!

July 10, 2015 - 10:53 pm

mountainmama - wow, what a great testimony!!! 🙂

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